I don’t get tangled up much in celebrity lives and fuck up but I can’t help but pay some attention to the recent Dream and Christina Milian debacle. I feel sorry for the chick. She spent her whole career being the good girl to marrying a guy that was so not her type. Now either she is a sucka for love or a whore to attention. Whatever the case may be, the whole thing looked messy the second the ring disappeared.

Call me old fashion but when I get married my husband is wearing his ring. Everyday. All day. The only time he should take it off is to sleep and shower. It’s not even about showing the world he’s taken but it’s a sign of his commitment to me. Men that I know who wear their wedding rings do so with pride. A ring is not some decoration, it is basic public accountability. If you can’t wear it, you might as well admit you’re half-assing the whole marriage.

The cutest thing is when you see a group of married men joking with a newlywed man about his new hardware. It’s an elite club, especially if they are men of color. There should be some pride and support for those men who take that step to commit and wear their rings proudly. The moment you see that little circle of metal, you know the guy is either serious or pretending very hard to be. Either way, the ring says more than his mouth usually does.

If I discover that a man is married but doesn’t wear his ring automatically I’m thinking he’s a cheater or that marriage isn’t real. If I don’t see a ring on your finger I have a hard time calling the woman by your side your wife. You don’t even respect her enough to wear the ultimate sign of your union. NO, a neck tattoo of her name doesn’t count! That’s the kind of stunt people pull when they want credit without discipline. A real husband doesn’t need tricks to prove he belongs.